Eight days ago, Californians passed the anti-gay marriage proposition by a narrow margin. This saddens me but I am not surprised.
It also disturbs me that many of the protest gatherings happening around the state are focused on the role of the Mormon church. The church is very right wing and shockingly wealthy.
But I think it is a mistake to blame the Mormons. My personal preference would be that we focus on our legislators and main street America. If we pick one group to blame, I think we will miss the Freedom Train.
Trading hate for hate, pointing the finger of blame, and declaring war on religious doctrine will likely backfire on us as a group. Americans are very protective of their religious freedoms. It's why this country was founded.
Recently, on my favorite lesbian message board, there has been some discussion about Prop 8. I talked about forgiveness as a tool for moving through the strong emotions in order to carry on the cause. A few have not been happy with that.
Once again, I will say here that forgiveness does not mean to lay down and die. It means to see your opponent as a flawed human being, just like oneself, who has some ideas borne out of ignorance and misinformation.
What they need is information, example, and respect. Not respect for their ideas but respect for their humanity. Respect for their right to believe as they do. And information to help them understand that this issue embodies the true meaning of the separation of Church and State; to understand that this is not an issue of religious doctrine but an issue of civil rights.
Thanks to Lori from Hahn at Home, I found this video from Refuse to Hate. It is worth watching the entire video.
Refuse to Hate from Refuse to Hate on Vimeo.




